Your Husband Will Fail You

I love being married to Wayne.  He’s a great husband and is intentional in showing how much he cares about me.

He tells me I’m beautiful everyday. (Who wouldn’t want that?)

He supports my ministry and happily takes on the kids when I travel to speak.

He listens (most of the time, anyway) when I’m a drama-mamma.

Wayne is a cup-half-full kind of guy who is rarely in a bad mood… and he adores his family more than any other man I know.

His walk with God continues to grow and I’m amazed at the person he is now,versus who he was when we got married.

But every once in a while, I start believing we aren’t as connected as we should be.

I begin to wonder why he’s not a better husband.  I start listing off things he could do to make me feel more loved and valued. My mind thinks of a million different things I wished he was.

Maybe you can relate?

But you know what I’ve come to understand about those times?

Wayne isn’t the issue… I am. 

When I find myself needing Wayne to be more, better or different… sometimes the problem lies with me.

And the question I ask myself is, “How is my relationship with God right now?”

Because if my relationship with God is distant, I begin to look to my husband to fill the needs only God can fill.

And when Wayne doesn’t meet them… because he can’t…

• I begin to nit-pick. 
• I expose his shortcomings.
• I questions his motives.

He doesn’t have a chance, poor guy.

Sisters, our husbands will never be able to meet all our needs all the time. They aren’t designed to. It’s not their job.

And when we put unrealistic expectations on them to be the “it-man”… we’re setting them up for failure and us up for disappointment.

Maybe you need to give your husband a break and instead take a look at yourself.

Sister… how is your relationship with God?

Are you connecting at a heart level with Him daily?

Are you pressing in when you find yourself struggling?

Are you seeking God’s wisdom and direction in your life?

You’ve heard that song by Plumb called God Shaped Hole?  It’s reminding us that we all have a need built into us that only God can fill.

Food can’t.

Friends can’t.

Alcohol can’t.

Shopping can’t

And neither can our husbands.

The next time you begin to expect your husband to be everything you need (and then some)… check to see how your connection with God is.

It just might surprise you.

©2011 careyscotttalks.com

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The State of Your Bible

Before you read this… go grab your Bible.  The one you use the most… I’ll wait.

Ok, got it?

Set it down in front of you.  I want you to take some time to look at it.  Let’s determine the state of your Bible.  Consider these questions:

1. What does the cover look like? Is it dusty? Does it look brand new?  Is it tattered and worn?
2. How is the binding holding up? Is it tearing at the seams?  Has it come loose in places?  Has some of the color rubbed off?
3. In what condition are the pages inside? Are they earmarked, underlined and highlighted?  Do you have scribbles and notes revealing God’s footprints in your life?  Are some of them ripped from thumbing through quickly?  Or are the pages just as they were in the store… pristine white and clean.
4. What about the things you’ve placed between pages? Does your Bible offer hidden treasures of cards and sermon notes and bookmarks that represent something special to you?  Or, are those “in-between” places barren?

We can tell a lot from the state of our Bibles, can’t we?

• For some… this exercise affirmed and encouraged you to see tangible evidence that you are in His Word regularly. (Be careful not to get prideful)
• For others… this Bible inventory was a wake up call.

I want to say this strongly and boldly, friends, so please hear me.  God’s Word is alive, active and powerful!  We need to be in the Bible every day because He speaks to us there.  We find comfort, answers, direction, peace, guidance, examples, etc. through His divine words.

When you are not in your Bibles daily soaking in His truths… you are spiritually starving yourself.

Look, we are all created with a God-shaped hole in our spirit that can only be filled with Him (although we try so many others ways to fill it).  And one way He fills us is through His Word!

Please… wear that Bible out!  Feast on His words and experience the power that comes with it.

Why not start now?

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