This journey has been a wild ride… yes?
I’ve had days where I wanted to throw in the towel and go back to the easy way of how things have always been. I’ve longed for my way. I have wanted to take over so situations would be handled… right.
I’ve gone through every emotion known to (wo)man.
There have been times I was so mad I could’ve spit. Other times I’ve cried in frustration. And others where I’ve laughed when a change I made actually… worked.
My husband has been amazing one day and less-than-amazing the next.
I have been challenged to try things so foreign to me that I eventually followed in blind faith, hoping it would work.
We’ve had moments where Wayne has stopped in his tracks and looked at me in confusion when I told him I didn’t have an opinion… or we could do it his way.
But regardless of the ups and downs… regardless of the crunchy times… my journey to surrender has worked miracles in my marriage.
Are things perfect? Nope.
Do I always do it right? Not a chance.
Is my marriage problem-free? HA!
Am I always excited to step back so he can step forward? LOL.
But I am so grateful to have crossed paths with The Surrendered Wife book, because it has helped me begin to align my role with God’s design.
It’s helped clearly define the differences between worldly submission and Godly surrender. They are worlds apart.
I wish we could sit together over coffee and share our experiences. I wonder…
- Did you face similar struggles and responses?
- Why did you decided to walk this journey with me?
- Has your marriage improved?
- Does your husband have more confidence?
- Is he more engaged?
- Do you feel less overwhelmed?
- Have you found freedom from not having to do it all?
My biggest hope is you’ve discovered that surrendering to your husband … as God intended … is a good thing.
If you are like me, your heart has long yearned for a better marriage. And this journey has opened your eyes to ways you can help make that desire a reality.
To no surprise, God keeps providing me with ample opportunities to fully embrace the surrendering concept.
For the past few months, we’ve been collecting bids and estimates for some home renovations. Our house is almost 15 years old and looks it. Rather than update with “fun” renovations, we are doing the necessary ones instead.
To be honest, I’m a little anxious.
I’m a bargain-hunting, coupon-using, cheapest-way-to-do-it kind of girl. But I’m coming to realize there are some processes that you shouldn’t skimp on.
“You get what you pay for” is my husband’s mantra.
I’ve had to apply generous amounts of that proverbial duct tape to keep my mouth shut. And rather than argue with, question or stress out, I’m making a deliberate choice to just trust him.
In reality, he is a smart man capable of making good choices. And I’ve learned that my ways are not always the best ways. I know these things… now.
And when that inner control-freak threatens to erupt, I pray this quick prayer… out loud.
“Lord, I trust Your Holy Spirit’s voice in my husband.”
It’s become a regular saying.
So, when anxiety starts to invade…
when I begin to worry about money…
when I think he’s making the wrong choices…
I am intentional in stepping out of the way so he can lead.
It’s not my normal response… yet.
But it will be.
I am committed to becoming a card-carrying surrendered wife, because I like “us” better when we are in the roles God designed for marriage.
I’m realizing there is great freedom in letting Wayne and God figure it out. And to my amazement, they don’t need my unsolicited input or advice.
They are doing just fine.
Yes… this is good.
My husband is more confident and choosing to lead.
I am softer and more willing to release control.
Our marriage is more in alignment with God’s design.
And yours can be, too.
♥♥ COMING THIS FALL! ♥♥
If you’ve enjoyed my Surrendered Wife blog series, but want to spend some more time on this message or share it with a friend… then I’m excited to tell you about my upcoming devotional book.
My NEW BOOK will be packed with extras not available anywhere else.
- Several additional devos on topics not covered in the series.
- Practical tips and tools for becoming a surrendered wife.
- A man’s perspective following each devotional, teaching us why it matters to them.
I’m only printing in limited quantity, so if you are interested in pre-ordering a copy… please email me at CareyLScott@gmail.com. I’ll send you an email reminder when it’s available.
Will be available in both paperback and on Kindle.
A GREAT OPPORTUNITY!
I’ve been speaking with Laura Doyle herself… the New York Time Best-Selling Author of The Surrendered Wife… and she has made a generous offer for those of you who have been walking this journey with me.
She has created a weekend retreat for women that teaches the skills we’ve learned through our journey… and more! We’ll learn how to get our needs and desires met, while honoring our husbands every single day. And have some fun girl-time, too!
While this is not promoted as a faith-based retreat, it does offer God-honoring ideals on loving and respecting our husbands.
The retreat is June 22nd – 24th in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. All the details can be found here.
Until May 20th… if you sign up using the coupon code “surrender”… you’ll receive almost ½ off!
Thank you, Laura!
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Concept taken from The Surrendered Wife